Friday, October 16, 2009

A.'s advice

Hey, how are you?

Many times guys (and girls) ask me what's my favourite pick up line.. they ask me things like "so what do you TELL a girl? what do you SAY to her?" when I hear this, I just start smiling.. because this question -what's your favourite pick up line?- implies that there has to be some sort of "magical sentence" that can be used time after time in order to get a girl.

Well let me tell you something. there IS in fact such a sentence...

And it IS a magical sentence...

It's a secret pick-up line, only known among the greatest of pick-up artists. it has been used by Casanova himself...

Sounds unbelievable? let me ask you this:

Always wanted to have that special girl's phone number? always wanted to have sex with that one beautiful girl from your class? always wanted to approach that one hot chick, but never felt comfortable because you didn't had that one magical pick-up line??

If you answered 'yes' to the above questions, I will hereby change your life forever...

But you must promise me that you will keep it a secret. it's not meant for everyone...

Ok here it comes... are you ready? are you ready to find out what's the one magical sentence that will get you ANY girl you want?

Here it is:

"Hey, how are you?"

...

There you have it.

Impressed?

Maybe I should repeat myself: "Hey, how are you?"

Make no mistake ladies and gentlemen. this IS world's greatest pick-up line!!! 100% success guaranteed!

Of course I know that you are highly sceptical and probably you don't even believe me. but if you analyse my words more deeply, you'll see that I'm right! it really is the best pick-up line because it ALWAYS works. BUT... (obviously there is a but)... the line is just a line.. it are four words put together in one sentence and exactly therein lies its magic. for we all know that words -spoken words- can come out in many different ways.

Example 1: imagine this guy saying "Hey, how are you?":

Example 2: and now imagine this guy saying the same thing:

Need I say more? NEED I SAY MORE? a picture says more than a thousand words and when I look at these pictures I understand why my "magical pick-up line" works for some, but doesn't work for others..

What you have to understand is that the line ITSELF always works. but more importantly, will it work when YOU say it? are these four magical words still so magical when they leave YOUR mouth?

The secret lies in the fact that it's not important WHAT you say. it's about HOW you say it. this all seems very logical and most people already know this.

But so why are those people still single?

Hmm...

Some facts:
  • Communication is the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions or information by speech, writing or signs.
  • There are three major parts in human face to face communication which are body language, voice tonality and words.
  • 55% of impact is determined by body language; postures, gestures; eye contact etc.
  • 38% by the tone of voice.
  • 7% (!) by the content or the words used in the process of communication.
So if only 7% of human communication is about the actual words, what does this tell us? it tells us we should pay LESS attention to WHAT we say and MORE attention to HOW we say it. so when you interact with an attractive girl, it really doesn't matter what the hell you talk about. but it most sincerely DOES matter how you talk about it..

For those of you who didn't know it yet, I'm now in Leeds, England, for the next 4 months. I'm here as an exchange student and I'm here experimenting and playing the game. I'm here all alone (well, I got lovely roommates ;)) in a new country, meeting new people all the time. it's the perfect way to upgrade my game skills. as David D. would say it: go OUT THERE and play the game, because the game is being played in real life with real people; not in books or DVDs.

It's for this very reason that I'm flirting A LOT here; seriously all the time; every single day; it's always on!!!

Like I said before, it doesn't matter what you say to a girl. let me share some funny dialogues to show you that it really doesn't matter :P and that I still have success, despite the fact of me saying the most ridiculous things.*

Dialogue with girl#1:
me: so what's your name? she: Laura me: and what's your number? she: what? me: yeah, your phone number she: why do you want my phone number? me: because I want to stalk you and call you everyday and tell you how much I love you. she: hahaha omg you are too funny! (I got her number, but I'm not stalking her, don't worry ;)

Dialogue with girl#2:
she: so what did you do before this? me: I used to be a Kamasutra teacher she: really?? me: yes, I've been in India many times where I got my official degree.. you are now looking at a Kamasutra guru she: nooo, I don't believe you me: I wish I could show you my skills, but I don't think you could handle it she: uhu me: the first thing what I teach my pupils is to stop looking at the pictures and actually READ the material. because if you read and understand the book, you are able to grow, not only as a sexual creature, but as a human being.. she: you are playing with me. you are no Kamasutra guru! me: I know why you don't believe me. you think I just say it because I want to have sex with you. well you are right about that, I want to have sex with you she: (she giving me a naughty look and drinks from my glass) me: but.. it would jeopardize our relationship of me being the mentor and you being the student she: hahaha so now I'm your student? me: if you want to, but I'm pretty expensive. you think you can afford me? (after this conversation -believe it or not- we went to her apartment for a Kamasutra session!!!)

Dialogue with girl#3:
me: yes hahaha how many people can say that, right? she: well, you! me: and so what's the craziest place you ever had sex? she: uhmm.. me: (interrupting) can't make a choise hahaha? ;) she: well, I never had sex.. me: never? you mean you are a virgin? she: yes.. ... (2 second awkward silence) me: ow, but it's ok, I can wait ;) she: hahaha I like it, that's a good one!

Dialogue with girl#4:
she: I like red wine more me: I like red too. they say that the older the wine, the better the taste. speaking of old, how old are you? she: 24. and what about you? me: Ow I'm sorry, I'm too young for you ;).. she: (laughing) me: but maybe that guy over there likes you :P.. (me pointing at the most wussy-looking guy in the room, obviously making a joke) she: not really me: so I have to find someone who looks more like me, right? ;) she: no, you will do just fine ;)

*none of the dialogues have been altered, modified or changed. these are exact fragments of actual conversations.

As you can see, I said the stupidest things, things that "normally" would not make sense. but they all worked, not because I knew what I was SAYING; I knew what I was DOING. the point I'm making here is that you can say whatever you want and still have success! isn't that what every guy wants? being able to "be yourself" -making dumb jokes and saying stupid things- while in the same time being liked and having success? next time, when your 'approach anxiety' sets in, don't think about what you're going to say to that hot blonde standing at the bar; think about how you will walk towards her. think about how your shoes will touch the surface of the floor. think about the look in your eyes when you make eye-contact. think about your posture when you stand next to her. and then, finally, le moment suprême, ask her: "Hey, how are you?"

Go out there and make magic happen!

"Love is just a word, until someone comes along and gives it meaning."

Love,

A.