Latin borrel x Exchange party

I should apologize for the lag in posts. work has overwhelmed me during the week, and I've indeed spend both my weekdays and weekends enjoying my social life. I've literally had to choose between going on dates and writing a blog-post a couple of times. I think you understand why I chose the former.

Notwithstanding, some words have to be stated regarding two particular events. as with many distinctive social situations, the two were in fact interrelated. I'm talking about the infamous Latin borrel, followed by one of the best nights of partying I've had in a long time: Exchange party @ Club Home.

The great thing about this Latin borrel was that it reminds me of vacation. 90% of the crowd was from overseas -US, Eastern Europe and Spain, to name but a few- which makes them automatically more open-minded and adventurous. I wouldn't be me if I didn't exploit that characteristic, so for all night we were gaming like CRAZY!! I seriously think I talked to all people there.. but all that talking makes us thirsty, so we had to do what we do best.. ASD.

After some shots the game was on like wildfire! I got some phone numbers -this time from girls that I actually want to call-, a few kisses here and there and I even managed to set up a date for my friend! but what kind of friend would I be if I didn't get a date for myself.. ;)

So two days later I call this girl, we meet up, we try to have a "civilized" date, but the attraction is just too strong and within a few minutes we are exchanging tongue.

This girl is a great kisser, a LOT of sex-appeal, seductive eyes; my type -a nice polite little girl, a little bit slutty but not too slutty to be a whore-.

We play the text-game the days after (I send her a text-message, a couple hours later she sends me a text -as if she didn't read it the moment I send it, but whatever- I text her, she texts me and so it goes on).

Somehow the text-game turns into another date and we decide to go to the Exchange party, which takes place in Club Home on Saturday.

I'm very excited! "I'll probably get laid this Saturday" I think to myself while reading the text-message. however, I don't want to enter the club together with her (as if we are boyfriend and girlfriend), so I text her that I'll meet her inside. "I'll see you inside the club. destiny will bring us together ;)", I text her in an effort to sound mysterious.

So it's Saturday night and I'm feelin' right (just like the song). I see a lot of people standing in line of Club Home.. it's gonna be a crowded night.. I'm there with the best wingmen I could ever wish for: G., J., R., M. and R.

At this point, the night is still young -as are many of the girls standing in the queue- so we allow some alcohol in our system. as I'm drinking the Martini (yes it's a girls drink, fuck it) I realize that the length of the line is more than ridiculous.. I estimate the average duration of standing in the queue at 50/60 minutes. luckily for us we befriended management. we stood in queue for no longer than 5/6 minutes.

Once we entered the venue, the game was once again on like wildfire! not to be too descriptive, but it was on.. DHV.

As I'm dancing with this one girl, I realize that it wouldn't be in my best interest if my date would "catch" us and see me like this (me grinding and dirty dancing with another girl), so I abruptly leave my dance-partner and walk towards the bar to check the inbox of my phone.

As expected, my date send me a text-message. as unexpected, I'm reading: "The bouncer won't let us in for safety reasons, the club is too full.. I call you tomorrow. have fun! x"

"Fuck, I won't get laid tonight" I think to myself.

But destiny has a way of its own. so I continue doing what I do best; enjoying myself no matter what, no matter where. as I'm walking back towards my friends, I suddenly see another girl eye-fucking me. I realize that this is a classic case of eye-fucking rather than eyeballing. eyeballing means that a girl is fairly checking you out, while eye-fucking means that her body is screaming sex.

Naturally I responded to her signals and I approached her. we didn't talk much, we didn't even dance that much, we were just kissing the whole time. and normally when you kiss a girl for the first time, it's usually not longer than a full minute. but we kissed non-stop for about 10/20 minutes. not that it's a problem for me, but I couldn't catch a breath.. really I couldn't breathe properly because of the wild movements of her tongue.

"Kissing is just the beginning of sex" I told her. "I like to kiss you too" she said.. (haha that's the funny thing about talking to people in nightclubs, you can't hear a thing ;p). given the fact that words are irrelevant at this point -the point whereby only body-language counts-, I took her hand, leading the interaction to the point of taking her back to my place.

We fucked.

Don't mind the words. I could have written that we made love, but that would be a lie; we fucked. there's a big difference between the two. I did put on some music though, to create some sort of "romantic" atmosphere.

And the music did made all the difference... it woke up my mother...

So while this girl from Club Home and myself did what we did, my mother start knocking on my bedroom-door, telling me to turn off the music. hahaha it was pretty damn awkward.

After the sex -correction: after fucking (I must stay consistent ;)- I drove her back to her place, as the gentleman I supposedly am.

The next morning my date (the one that didn't get in) sends me a text-message: "Hey!! how was the party? x"

I still didn't reply.

A.'s advice

Hey, how are you?

Many times guys (and girls) ask me what's my favourite pick up line.. they ask me things like "so what do you TELL a girl? what do you SAY to her?" when I hear this, I just start smiling.. because this question -what's your favourite pick up line?- implies that there has to be some sort of "magical sentence" that can be used time after time in order to get a girl.

Well let me tell you something. there IS in fact such a sentence...

And it IS a magical sentence...

It's a secret pick-up line, only known among the greatest of pick-up artists. it has been used by Casanova himself...

Sounds unbelievable? let me ask you this:

Always wanted to have that special girl's phone number? always wanted to have sex with that one beautiful girl from your class? always wanted to approach that one hot chick, but never felt comfortable because you didn't had that one magical pick-up line??

If you answered 'yes' to the above questions, I will hereby change your life forever...

But you must promise me that you will keep it a secret. it's not meant for everyone...

Ok here it comes... are you ready? are you ready to find out what's the one magical sentence that will get you ANY girl you want?

Here it is:

"Hey, how are you?"

...

There you have it.

Impressed?

Maybe I should repeat myself: "Hey, how are you?"

Make no mistake ladies and gentlemen. this IS world's greatest pick-up line!!! 100% success guaranteed!

Of course I know that you are highly sceptical and probably you don't even believe me. but if you analyse my words more deeply, you'll see that I'm right! it really is the best pick-up line because it ALWAYS works. BUT... (obviously there is a but)... the line is just a line.. it are four words put together in one sentence and exactly therein lies its magic. for we all know that words -spoken words- can come out in many different ways.

Example 1: imagine this guy saying "Hey, how are you?":

Example 2: and now imagine this guy saying the same thing:

Need I say more? NEED I SAY MORE? a picture says more than a thousand words and when I look at these pictures I understand why my "magical pick-up line" works for some, but doesn't work for others..

What you have to understand is that the line ITSELF always works. but more importantly, will it work when YOU say it? are these four magical words still so magical when they leave YOUR mouth?

The secret lies in the fact that it's not important WHAT you say. it's about HOW you say it. this all seems very logical and most people already know this.

But so why are those people still single?

Hmm...

Some facts:

• Communication is the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions or information by speech, writing or signs.

• There are three major parts in human face to face communication which are body language, voice tonality and words.

• 55% of impact is determined by body language; postures, gestures; eye contact etc.

• 38% by the tone of voice.

• 7% (!) by the content or the words used in the process of communication.

So if only 7% of human communication is about the actual words, what does this tell us? it tells us we should pay LESS attention to WHAT we say and MORE attention to HOW we say it. so when you interact with an attractive girl, it really doesn't matter what the hell you talk about. but it most sincerely DOES matter how you talk about it..

For those of you who didn't know it yet, I'm now in Leeds, England, for the next 4 months. I'm here as an exchange student and I'm here experimenting and playing the game. I'm here all alone (well, I got lovely roommates ;)) in a new country, meeting new people all the time. it's the perfect way to upgrade my game skills. as David D. would say it: go OUT THERE and play the game, because the game is being played in real life with real people; not in books or DVDs.

It's for this very reason that I'm flirting A LOT here; seriously all the time; every single day; it's always on!!!

Like I said before, it doesn't matter what you say to a girl. let me share some funny dialogues to show you that it really doesn't matter :P and that I still have success, despite the fact of me saying the most ridiculous things.*

Dialogue with girl#1:

me: so what's your name? she: Laura me: and what's your number? she: what? me: yeah, your phone number she: why do you want my phone number? me: because I want to stalk you and call you everyday and tell you how much I love you. she: hahaha omg you are too funny! (I got her number, but I'm not stalking her, don't worry ;)

Dialogue with girl#2:

she: so what did you do before this? me: I used to be a Kamasutra teacher she: really?? me: yes, I've been in India many times where I got my official degree.. you are now looking at a Kamasutra guru she: nooo, I don't believe you me: I wish I could show you my skills, but I don't think you could handle it she: uhu me: the first thing what I teach my pupils is to stop looking at the pictures and actually READ the material. because if you read and understand the book, you are able to grow, not only as a sexual creature, but as a human being.. she: you are playing with me. you are no Kamasutra guru! me: I know why you don't believe me. you think I just say it because I want to have sex with you. well you are right about that, I want to have sex with you she: (she giving me a naughty look and drinks from my glass) me: but.. it would jeopardize our relationship of me being the mentor and you being the student she: hahaha so now I'm your student? me: if you want to, but I'm pretty expensive. you think you can afford me? (after this conversation -believe it or not- we went to her apartment for a Kamasutra session!!!)

Dialogue with girl#3:

me: yes hahaha how many people can say that, right? she: well, you! me: and so what's the craziest place you ever had sex? she: uhmm.. me: (interrupting) can't make a choise hahaha? ;) she: well, I never had sex.. me: never? you mean you are a virgin? she: yes.. ... (2 second awkward silence) me: ow, but it's ok, I can wait ;) she: hahaha I like it, that's a good one!

Dialogue with girl#4:

she: I like red wine more me: I like red too. they say that the older the wine, the better the taste. speaking of old, how old are you? she: 24. and what about you? me: Ow I'm sorry, I'm too young for you ;).. she: (laughing) me: but maybe that guy over there likes you :P.. (me pointing at the most wussy-looking guy in the room, obviously making a joke) she: not really me: so I have to find someone who looks more like me, right? ;) she: no, you will do just fine ;)

*none of the dialogues have been altered, modified or changed. these are exact fragments of actual conversations.

As you can see, I said the stupidest things, things that "normally" would not make sense. but they all worked, not because I knew what I was SAYING; I knew what I was DOING. the point I'm making here is that you can say whatever you want and still have success! isn't that what every guy wants? being able to "be yourself" -making dumb jokes and saying stupid things- while in the same time being liked and having success? next time, when your 'approach anxiety' sets in, don't think about what you're going to say to that hot blonde standing at the bar; think about how you will walk towards her. think about how your shoes will touch the surface of the floor. think about the look in your eyes when you make eye-contact. think about your posture when you stand next to her. and then, finally, le moment suprême, ask her: "Hey, how are you?"

Go out there and make magic happen!

"Love is just a word, until someone comes along and gives it meaning."

Love,

A.

Brasil blog: coming soon!!!

Yes, I am still alive. alive and very very busy. stay tuned for my blog; it's coming soon. in the meantime, don't be afraid to check out the one and only Carpe Diem Blog.

Saúde!

A day in the life of A. & G. @ Fortaleza

Update

--- Spending quality time with my girl A. ---

This week I spend so much time with this lovely girl. as a matter of fact, I'm going to her right now to have one last moment together before I go on vacation. yes, you read it correctly; tomorrow I'll be in Brazil!!! A., these last few days were great and I'll miss you. remember what I said..


--- Opening of Amsterdam's newest club: Club Prime ---

I've been there twice this week and I already LOVE it there.

Why?

1: because of the two girls from Iceland > one sings like an angel and the other one.. ;)..
2: because of D. > a half French, half Polish girl who used some very cheap pick-up lines on me. but I'm still a guy so I had to play along ;)
3: because of R. > I got her phone number because I really want to get to know her better. I asked her: ''can you do something very important for me? can you send me a text message when you are safe back home?'' I understand that the only thing you really want to do, is to have sex with her. of course you could say "do you want to have sex with me tonight?" very straight and very direct -you think I make a joke?? you would be surprised how often they say YES!! but often, you need to say something "sweet" like the thing with this text message; to show her that you care about her well-being.

--- My last night as an employee at Club Escape ---

I worked in Amsterdam's most popular nightclub for almost a year and now it's time for more serious matters. I'll never forget all the fun things that happened there. I'm not going into details about all the situations with friends and lovers, because what happens in Escape, stays in Escape..

--- Love ---

I'll not be blogging for a while, because I'll be in Brazil for the next month. maybe once or twice I'll post something to keep you informed about my whereabouts ;). I'm going to miss all of you, especially E., D., B., E., J., A., A. you know who you are.

With love,

A.

Unexpected

My colleague N. (from Escape) did me a huge favor. yesterday he arranged a double date for us: N. and his girl H. and me and my 'blind date' A. the funny thing about it is that i never met A. before. i really had no idea what to expect. i told N. that if A. is not hot, i would have one drink and than i would go home ;)

But when i saw her... wowww she looked really HOT!

From the first moment of spending time with her, i couldn't stop looking at the color of her eyes (emerald green and light gray > crazy beautiful eyes!!)

The more time we spend together, the more we liked eachother. in fact, we liked eachother so much, she spend the night with me!! ;)

In fact, we like eachother so much, she just called me and i'm going to her place tonight!!

N., i owe you man!

With love,

A.

The Mystery Method @ Sugar Factory

Last night E., J. and me went out clubbing. initially we supposed to go to the cinema, Watchmen, but things changed and we went to Sugar Factory :). before we went out, E. and me each took six shots Tequila and we were ready to go :P

The music at Sugar Factory was really good. amazing actually. i didn't dance much there though, i was too busy applying the lessons i learned from a very wise man.. this man goes by the name of Erik Von Markovik aka Mystery. I read his book 'The Mystery Method' and let me tell you... last night it paid off!!!

TWICE!!! ;)

There is this one particular pick-up skill from the book that i used many times already before, but last night it went perfectly flawless. thanks Mystery!

It's a fact: all girls love magic ;)

New year party @ my place

It's now already 3 days ago and this is my first moment of relaxation. now i can finally write about my new year.

31 December 2008: at 11.00 my lil' brother called me and said: 'listen man, we should really do something crazy tonight. i dont wanna spend new year doing nothing'. of course i was still asleep and said: 'yeah man you're right'. and than he told me to call some people and said that we would give a party at our place tonight. i said; 'yeah man you're right' :P and we hang up the phone. i called some people -i called my friend G. and 5 girls and i said that there would be a party tonight at my place.
at 16.00 we started organizing things and purchasing things for the party. i say 'purchasing' because we didn't buy it ;) all i can say is that the self scanners at Albert Heijn are a blessing and basically we purchased € 500 on alcohol - A LOT OF ALCOHOL-, drinks, chips, pizzas etc. and we paid a total of € 75. God bless AH.

We stashed it on the balcony in my mothers house
where the party would take place later on ;)

At 20.00 we went to my fathers house where we would celebrate the countdown. we didnt do much, just some quality time with family (playing cards, playing chest, eating nice new year food etc.) at 24.00 we hugged each other and wished each other all the best for 2009...
it was in this moment when i could cry, because my girlfriend wasnt with me...
i'll tell you in time more about my girl, but what it comes down to is that she lives in Poland, Warsaw, and we have a long distance relation for 2 years already. she is the love of my live and i hate it that she couldnt be there with me.. i miss her.

(This is a picture of me and my sweety in Thailand, Koh Samui, Silver Beach)

But anyway, at 00.30 my father gave us a ride to my mother's house where the party would go on till 10.00 next morning :P hahaha the party was extremely well organized: we took the laptop downstairs with a tremendous sound system, the fireplace was on, the bottles were cold ;) and the party could begin. the first person came at 01.00 when i was still preparing myself and putting make up and all that shit ;). later, more guests came and when everyone was there (at 03.00) we were with 20 people. more people planned to come but they were drunk in Amsterdam center and didnt show up :P.

My brother and myself were the hosts of the night
and we made sure everyone had a marvelous time.

Not only did we drank, we also took the liberty to take some x. my other brother was in charge of the 'smoking area' (his room) :P all the smokers went to his room where they all used a LOT of weed/hash/vaporizer. that night he had more in his room than a coffeeshop.
later he also made food for all the guests. he made delicious salmon, very nice chicken with cocos, rice and some nice sauce.

Later that night T. was sleeping with me. she is so super sweet. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX